The Science-Proven Secrets to a Happy and Lasting Marriage

 

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Science Says That This Is Crucial to a Lasting Marriage

With all of the varieties of personalities and unique tastes in a partnership it seems that finding one secret to a lasting marriage may be an eluding chase.

Can anyone really know for sure what will guarantee a happy marriage? Life is dynamic, minds change, and after all, there is free will. However, a recent study is suggesting that there might be a reoccurring ingredient in the happiest of marriages.

Probably more important than information is experience. After all, it is experiences and what we learn from them that make the expert. I once heard a well-informed man say that a wise man is worth a thousand knowledgeable books.

That being said, if you are reading this in hopes to gain a bit of insight on the subject of marriage, then who better to get advice from other than an experienced and happily married couple?

What Experts Have to Say

While of course, the success of each marriage is going to be subjective to those individuals, science has done some research and inquired with 468 married individuals about their marriages.

The results indicated that above all else, a shared expression of gratitude and appreciation was the most significant quality of a happy and lasting marriage.

Couples expressed that gratitude serves as a buffer during arguments and lessens the likelihood of withdrawing from their partner.

The study from the University of Georgia discovered that the greater the expressions were, the less prone the couples were to the negative effects of poor communication, disagreement and conflict.

Couples expressed that gratitude serves as a buffer during arguments and lessens the likelihood of withdrawing from their partner. It appears that when it comes to communication, it is better to say something rather than nothing, and even better if words of appreciation are expressed.

Appreciate Everything, Expect Nothing

Expectation is the killer of appreciation. Results from the previously mentioned study also found that couples who engaged in demanding or critical communication led to withdrawal and avoidance. Expressions of gratitude, on the other hand, tend to interrupt demanding communication.

What we focus on grows – if we are focused on the good and the appreciated aspects of our partners and union, then we will find them to grow, and our expectations for more to lessen. From this place, it’s often much easier to communicate.

Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude

So if gratitude is a key to a lasting marriage, how do we cultivate a grateful heart? While it’s all too easy to focus on what we lack, the real secret to developing gratitude is to get a handle on our ability to direct our focus.

 It’s quite simple but sometimes the simple doesn’t always imply easy – it takes practice. Here are a few ways to shift focus to gratitude mode:

1. Keep a Gratitude Journal

Establishing a daily journaling practice is something most great thinkers have done. It’s therapeutic on many levels, and something that has personally helped me in many ways.

A journaling practice in and of itself is meditative and cultivates awareness and a clear mind for clearer communication and presence with your partner. It also is wonderful for setting the pace of your day in a pleasant manner.

By focusing on what we admire, adore and appreciate in our lives, we feel more capable of giving. Often in a relationship quarrel, it’s a battle of two people trying to receive something.

However, when we are in our highest state, we are more concerned with giving to others and our loved ones. A gratitude journal can help remind us that we have plenty to give.

For best results, set aside 10 minutes on a daily basis to recollect some of your best moments and anything you can think of for which you are grateful.

Take it a step further and write a detailed list of the reasons you are grateful for your partner and why. Soon you will find a viable life theme of gratefulness.

2. Use Perspective

Often, we are not grateful until it becomes necessary; we’re broke, sick or hungry, and our only option to keep in good spirits is to be thankful.

It is easy to be grateful when things are going well. However, it’s helpful to recall the hard times, and set up an unambiguous contrast in your mind, to see how truly blessed we often are.

Think back to the arguments, financial struggles or stress you and your partner once experienced. If you’re here now, that means you survived it and probably grew. If you can do it once, you can do it again, so be thankful for those opportunities for growth.

3. Count Your Blessings

It’s difficult to stay grateful when we are constantly growing. Growth is an innate function of the human spirit. This can make it easy to forget about the good things we have in our lives, though.

In order to counteract this mindset, consider these questions on a daily basis (you may even work them you’re your newfound journaling practice):

“What have I received from my partner?”
“What have I given to my partner?”
“What troubles and difficulty have I caused my partner?”

Observe these answers as a loving, objective viewer. Do not criticize; rather, see them for what they are, learn what you must, then make a choice to grow in the direction of gratitude and giving.

More Tips for A Happy Marriage

Among the many components of a healthy and lasting marriage, there are a few other recurring qualities that show up. Often times, when long-married duos are asked for their tips to success, a few additional qualities show up:

1. Patience

When it comes to a marriage (or any relationship), the individual comes before the group. Patience is a virtue for those who practice.

Life, especially married life, provides plenty of opportunities to practice patience.

Giving space for your partner to calm down, teaching a child a skill, or taking the time to listen and understand your partner’s viewpoint are all prime conditions for cultivating this beautiful quality.

As we develop patience in ourselves, we are able to bring it into our relationships.

After all, we can only give what we have. Practice patience every chance you get, as learning to be patient at work will better equip us to be patient at home with our partners. It takes time to truly get to know someone, and the better we feel understood and understand our partners, the happier we will be.

2. Seeing

So often we view the world and our partners through our own personal lens. We all have our personal tastes and interests. There’s nothing wrong with that, it makes life dynamic and interesting – if we all had the same taste, there would be no variety in life.

However, we also need to know when to take our lens down and simply see our partner for who they are, as they are. It’s lovely to see your partner as a lover, a wife/husband, and a partner when it comes to marriage. It’s also wonderful to see them for their true selves – a creative and spiritual being with infinite potential.

When a marriage runs into rough patches, the highest solution is to bend – to become flexible. So often our lenses see life in a very rigid manner, and we cut ourselves off from seeing. Take your marital challenges as an opportunity to grow and expand your view of the world.

3. Ask

It’s often easier for us to assume things than it is to find out. We tend to assume what our partner is thinking and feeling.

Sometimes, we go so far as to assume we know how they want to be treated and what’s best for them. The truth is, everything in life is subjective and up to the individual. One of the best things we could ever do in a relationship, especially when in it for the long haul, is to ask questions.

It takes courage to ask questions and hear the truth. Instead of assuming that you know your partner, ask.

What are their best characteristics in their eyes? What makes them happy? What is their mission in life, their purpose? What do they want to produce in life? What do they intend to receive in a marriage? What do they intend to give? How do they want to be treated?

The happiest couples are the couples that know each other. They know how to love, how to care, and how to communicate. Asking questions and listening builds trust and reliability.

And if a marriage is a partnership, then reliability is a must. Nobody wants an unreliable partner. So discover what you do not know and inquire with your partner.

Watch this video – Secrets To A Happy Marriage | Michael McIntyre SHOWTIME | Universal Comedy

Want some more tips to a lasting marriage? Go and read – 100 Tips for a Happy Long Lived Marriage

Written by Nick Kowalski

Author Bio:

Nick Kowalski is a Transformational Coach, fitness model and unconditional lover. You can find more of his writing on his blog NicksFit. His mission is to inspire the transformation toward love consciousness. Follow him on Instagram for more living in love inspiration and transformational mindset motivation!

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5 Dietary and Lifestyle Factors That May Help Depression

 

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The Inflammation-Depression Connection – Habits & How to Eat for Better Mental Health

Depression isn’t always a mental disorder on its own. Research reveals that the inflammation-depression connection is real, and increased inflammation truly has a big impact on our brain health.

Depression impacts more than 15 million adults every year. Treatments range from medicated antidepressants to counselling or therapy to doing nothing at all. While almost everyone can have short periods of feeling blue, major depressive episodes are classed as lasting two weeks or longer, with dysthymia (depression lasting for two years or longer) being a prolonged episode of a more serious nature.

Depression is somewhat common, but to the person suffering from it, it doesn’t feel common or normal at all. It can feel life-altering, debilitating, and never ending.

What Is Depression?

Depression (also clinically referred to as major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical condition that has a profound impact on the way a person thinks, feels, and acts.

Depression includes feelings of sadness, loss of interest in activities that used to bring joy, and a lack of feeling altogether.

Depression can be life-altering in that it can reduce a person’s ability to function in daily life, in work, and in relationships, and it can also make it difficult to have the energy or motivation to work toward treating or reversing the condition.

Depression is treatable for most people, but since it can also be associated with other chronic conditions or diseases, it can sometimes be misdiagnosed or can be difficult to treat alongside other disorders.

For example, thyroid problems, hormone imbalances, and chronic pain conditions can be misdiagnosed as depression. Sometimes thyroid problems or hormone imbalances are misdiagnosed as depression.

Women are more likely to experience depression than men, and depression can first make its appearance anywhere from the late teens to early thirties.

Depression is distinctly different from periods of sadness, bereavement, or grief, although depression can follow after those periods of time. Self-esteem and self-kindness can often decline in people suffering from depression, and self-loathing can often become a frequent feeling.

While depression can affect anyone, there are several factors that can be indicators of a predisposition to or trigger for depression.

They can include:

• Genetics: Certain genetic mutations can affect how certain chemicals work in the brain, particularly serotonin and dopamine.  Depression has a tendency to run in families for this reason.

• Environmental factors: People exposed to poor treatment, poor work environments, or abuse can develop depression. Traumatic experiences can also trigger depressive episodes.

• Pregnancy: Postpartum depression can affect as many as 20 percent of women who give birth. In some cases, this can turn into a propensity for major depressive disorder even after postpartum depression has resolved.

Bottom line: Depression is a common mental disorder that can be disruptive and debilitating. Although depression is treatable, since it can be associated with other chronic conditions or diseases, it can sometimes be misdiagnosed or can be difficult to treat alongside other disorders.

How Are Depression and Inflammation Linked?

Recent research indicates that depression isn’t just a mood disorder, but is a condition that is linked with inflammation, specifically in the gut. Gram negative bacteria, or “bad” bacteria in the gut, can increase immune responses, leading to inflammation and a role in the development of clinical depression.

Leaky gut, or increased intestinal permeability, can allow these gram negative bacteria to enter the bloodstream and systemic circulation, perpetuating the ongoing inflammation-depression cycle.

Research continues to illustrate the importance of addressing gut health in depression and stress-related disorders.

Individuals with clinical depression have been shown to have specific biomarkers that are associated with inflammation versus people who are not depressed. This is true even for those who are otherwise physically healthy, and not just individuals who have pre-existing inflammatory conditions.

Depression is a highly chronic disorder that can have flare-ups or recurrences, much like other inflammatory disorders (like rheumatoid arthritis, multiple sclerosis, or autoimmune thyroid disease).

The more episodes that a patient has, the more prone they will be to continued and future episodes unless, of course, the inflammation is addressed at the root and multiple lifestyle, dietary, and potentially prescription methods are utilized.

Bottom line: Depression is closely tied to inflammation, and isn’t always a mental disorder on its own. Gut health is closely tied to mental health because a large portion of the enteric nervous system is located in the gut, perpetuating the inflammation-depression connection.

Inflammation, Leaky Gut, and Diet

Leaky gut syndrome is a condition where the small intestine’s tight junctions become loose. The tight junctions should serve as regulated gateways to prevent unauthorized particles from entering the bloodstream.

However, when they become damaged from exposure to food allergies, sensitivities, chemicals, or toxins, they start allowing dangerous particles to enter into systemic circulation. This can result in autoimmune attacks, increased inflammation, and new food allergies or sensitivity reactions.

Certain dietary factors can exacerbate leaky gut and, ultimately, the inflammation-depression connection. These can include:

• Gluten and grains
• Soy and legumes
• Dairy products
• Trans fats and vegetable oils
• Refined sugars
• Processed foods
• Alcohol
• Caffeine

Addressing leaky gut comes down to removing offending foods, toxins, and other lifestyle factors (like smoking) and supporting the body with foods and nutrients that will help the intestinal wall to heal.

Foods and nutrients that are beneficial for leaky gut include:

• Bone broth and the nutrients it contains (collagen, glycine, glutamine, glucosamine)
• Cruciferous vegetables
• Leafy greens
• Antioxidant fruits like berries
• Pastured proteins
• Wild-caught seafood
• Healthy fats like avocado and coconut oil

5 Dietary and Lifestyle Factors That May Help Depression

Beyond addressing leaky gut, there are several other lifestyle factors which can help reduce symptoms of depression.

Move Daily

Regular exercise can help to improve depression in many people. Not coincidentally, exercise also helps to reduce inflammation.

Yoga is extremely helpful for combating depression and inflammation, and a regular yoga practice – even at home and just for a few minutes a day – can be a positive step in the right direction.

Walking alone or in a group is also a good exercise that can address depression in a proactive way, and the distance or speed isn’t as important as the regularity.

Practice Healthy Sleep Habits

Healthy sleep habits, including enough sleep, can also dramatically improve inflammatory conditions and depression. While not everyone needs eight hours a night, it’s a good goal to start with.

Not getting enough sleep, even when every other lifestyle factor is on point, can have a damaging effect on overall inflammation levels. Sleep deprivation can directly increase inflammation levels.

Insomnia can be a side effect of inflammatory conditions, but even in the presence of sleep disruptions, it’s helpful to set a regular bedtime habit that can eventually help to train the brain to go to sleep at a consistent time each day.

Skip the Alcohol

It can be a natural instinct to turn to alcohol when needing to unwind, relax, or turn off a brain that is overworked and run down. But when depression is present, it’s also important to avoid alcohol, which has a depressive effect on the body.

Switch to Decaf

Caffeine, as a stimulant, can temporarily improve symptoms, but in the long-term, perpetuates a depressive cycle. Those suffering from depression can often feel tired and unmotivated, so getting some pep from a cup of coffee or other caffeine seems like a good solution. It may work in the very short-term, but overall, will perpetuate a cycle of inflammation and adrenal stress that will prolong or worsen depression.

Quit Sugar

Avoidance of sugar is also beneficial for a depression wellness plan since sugar increases the inflammatory response within the body, and can also wreak havoc on leaky gut and digestive issues.

It’s easy to avoid sugar when you reduce processed and refined foods from your diet, and choose instead whole foods, particularly healthy meats, fats, and vegetables.

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Bottom line: With a proper diagnosis and an anti-inflammatory care plan from a qualified professional, the majority of people who suffer from depression will find relief and remission.

In some cases, admitting that depression is a problem is the biggest hurdle, but depression can impact anyone, and there is no shame in dealing with it.

In the same way that other inflammatory conditions can happen as a result of genetics or life situations outside of your control, so can depression, too. Seeking professional for inflammation-depression help can lessen the severity and provide relief.

Written by Aimee McNew

Author Bio:

Aimee McNew is a Certified Nutritionist who specializes in women’s health, thyroid problems, infertility, and digestive wellness. She ate her way back to health using a Paleo diet, lost 80 pounds, and had a healthy baby after numerous miscarriages. She focuses on simple nutrition practices that promote long-lasting results.

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What is the Best Natural Cure for High Blood Pressure?

 

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Natural Cure for High Blood Pressure Discovered (new study)

The traditional medical system has no solution for high blood pressure other than dangerous drugs, sometimes carrying lethal side effects.

But researchers from the University of Houston’s College of Pharmacy recently discovered a simple, natural cure for high blood pressure.

It’s more effective than drugs and it comes with no side effects.

You already have the cure in your kitchen, and you’re consuming it on a daily basis.

You may just need to boost it up a little to watch your blood pressure numbers drop.

The kidneys play a key role in managing blood pressure. Depending on orders from the brain, they excrete more sodium to lower blood pressure or excrete less sodium to raise blood pressure.

But for some reason, the kidneys do not always manage to do their job.

One of the most common classes of blood pressure drug, diuretics (also called a water pill), is supposed to help the kidneys get rid of excess water and sodium. But they come with serious side effects.

However, what the researchers discovered was that when oxidized stress (free radicals that cause inflammation) occurs in the kidneys, dopamine receptors that are supposed to monitor sodium excretion cannot function properly.

By loading your body with antioxidants, which fight free radicals, the oxidized stress is reduced, and your kidneys can do their job again.

The good news is that this is easy to do. using delicious fruits and vegetables without the side effects of water pills.

Blueberries have more varieties of antioxidants than any other fruit. But antioxidants can be found in all fruits and vegetables. The general rule is the more color, the better. You can also take them as supplements.

It’s equally important to avoid oxidization in the first place, by eating healthy foods and avoid everything processed. Food cooked at very high temperatures (grilled)—and of course fried foods—also contribute to oxidization.

The real underlying cause, however, lies in the phrase “oxidized stress.” Because any stress can be the underlying cause of high blood pressure. It can be physical (oxidization, diseases), mental (long-lasting difficult tasks at work), emotional (loss of a loved one), or sensory (traffic, loud TV).

And the stress accumulates. Imagine having the flu (physical stress) while there is loud construction going on next door (sensory stress). In that case, your stress level and blood pressure would rise more than it would from just one of those factors alone.

When your body is under oxidized or any other stress for a long time, your brain gets into the habit of triggering high blood pressure. This becomes chronic, habitual. So even if the stress factors are no longer present, your blood pressure stays high.

The way to deal with this is to break “the habit of high blood pressure.” You can do this by giving yourself “a Focused Break.” It only takes a few minutes, but you’ll immediately experience a drop in blood pressure.

But the Focused Break is a topic for another article. Learn more about how the Focused Break exercises work to lower blood pressure, and try them out for yourself here…

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Natural Cure for High Blood Pressure – This Healthy Food Raises Blood Pressure and Doubles Heart Attack Risk

As a health-conscious reader of Blue Heron Health News, I’m sure you pay a lot of attention to what you eat and try to choose a healthy diet.

But sometimes, not all is as it seems.

According to a new study, some healthy foods, such as common fruits and vegetables, could turn lethal if used in the wrong way. And we all use them in this way from time to time.

According to a new study from the Environmental Health Center at Seoul National University College of Medicine in Korea, consuming fruits, vegetables, and other foods from cans can double your risk of heart attack.

This only applies to cans lined with bisphenol A (BPA). Unfortunately, most food cans are still lined with this dangerous chemical, even though it’s been proven to cause many serious diseases.

Most plastic containers are also high in BPA.

The only safe way to avoid it is to only use cans, bottles, or other contains that are clearly marked as BPA-free.

In spite of the overwhelming evidence from this and other studies, the US FDA (Food and Drug Administration) still argues that BPA is completely safe.

The Korean researchers recruited 60 men and women to drink either three cans lined with BPA or 3 glass bottles of soy milk per day. Those who drank out of cans had a five-point rise in blood pressure on average, compared to the glass-drinking group.

The researchers also found a scary 1,600% (yes—one thousand, six hundred percent) increase in BPA in the urine of the can group compared to the glass group.

A spike in blood pressure drastically increases the risk of heart attack. So if you consume a higher volume of BPA, it can easily double your heart attack risk.

With high blood pressure being so serious, it’s extremely important to lower it. The best way I know to lower blood pressure naturally is to use three easy exercises. Try these exercises out for yourself here…

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Natural Cure for High Blood Pressure – 80% of High Blood Pressure Cases Caused by This Single Thing

One challenge in treating high blood pressure is that there seem to be so many factors that affect this disease.

A bad diet, lack of exercise, high cholesterol, and obesity are just a few examples of the hundreds of things considered to cause high blood pressure.

But researchers from Australia recently discovered a single factor that is behind 80% of high blood pressure cases. The best thing is, it’s easy to tackle this underlying cause and permanently get rid of high blood pressure.

In a new study published in the journal Cell, the researchers tested the effects of leptin on high blood pressure. Leptin is a hormone that, among other things, regulates appetite, metabolism, and body fat storage.

More body fat causes more leptin to circulate in the bloodstream. The researchers found that this tends to increase blood pressure. This is one reason that obesity and high blood pressure so often go hand in hand.

These scientists claim that high leptin levels may be the cause of up to 80% of all high blood pressure cases.

But that’s not the end of the story, because not everyone who has high blood pressure is obese, and vice versa.

The researchers took a group of obese mice with high blood pressure and disabled the receptors in their brains that process leptin. Like magic, the blood pressures of the obese mice went down.

But mice are not humans. So next, the researchers hunted down a group of people who were obese, with high leptin levels. However, either genetically or because of a disease, these people’s brains didn’t process leptin as effectively as normal. Without exception, these people had normal blood pressures, despite obesity.

What about slim people, then? Maybe some people just have more sensitive leptin receptors in their brains. So even if they’re not obese and their leptin levels are normal, their brains still trigger an elevation in blood pressure.

But does this mean that the solution is to just tone down the leptin receptors in the brain (as the researchers indicated)?

No, that’s just another way to use drugs to unbalance your system. And these drugs will always come with serious side effects and mess up something else in the process.

When your brain is reacting to leptin, it is correctly saying that something is wrong.

Being obese puts extreme stress on your body. And a functional way to deal with any stress is to raise blood pressure.

If you’re not obese and still have high blood pressure, it means that your brain is reacting to some other kind of stress. And stress accumulates. Yes, forcing leptin down could lower blood pressure (because it’s one of many influences), but it doesn’t address the real underlying stress.

Only your brain regulates your blood pressure. It gets messages from your body and senses, which it processes to decide how high your blood pressure should be (did you get an unexpected expense, have your arteries narrowed, etc.) But, just like the CEO of a major corporation, your brain makes the final decision.

The problem is that your brain gets used to firing off high blood pressure orders. It becomes an unconscious habit. And just like other bad habits, this habit needs to be broken.

The method I use to break this “habit of high blood pressure” is something I call a Focused Break.

Throughout the years, thousands of clients have used these easy Focused Break exercises to successfully lower their blood pressure to a healthy level.

This is by far the easiest and most effective method I know to drop blood pressure permanently.

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Learn how the simple Focused Break exercises work, and try them out for yourself…

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This program will provide you the natural high blood pressure treatments, natural recipes to cook healthy meals and useful strategies to build a healthy diet with the aim to help you to maintain, stabilize and get your blood pressure down in minutes permanently and naturally.

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